7 Mental Hacks to Be More Confident in Yourself
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When we are young, we believe we can take on the world, but between childhood and maturity, our enthusiasm and innate propensity to dream big are dampened. We begin to internalize the ideas that parents and instructors have about what we are capable of and are not.
The FBI Academy instructors weren't doing their jobs if they weren't challenging us to go beyond our self-imposed limitations.
How to make it work for you:
By exposing oneself to various situations and enduring the discomfort, you can discover your boundaries. When you believe in yourself, you'll be surprised by what you can achieve.
2. Never confuse memory with facts.
Information is not retained in our memory exactly as it is presented to us. Instead, we distill the experience's main points and organize them in ways that make the most sense to us. Because of this, various witnesses to the same occurrence frequently have conflicting accounts.
Confirmation bias is ingrained in the human brain. In other words, it saves data that is consistent with your personal views, values, and self-perception. This method of selective remembering aids in preventing information overload in the brain.
Therefore, be aware that your memory may not always contain precise facts. For instance, if you don't feel confident in yourself, your brain tends to remember information that supports that feeling. You will only be able to recall that one occurrence.
How to make it work for you:
Review the details of a memory that is clouded with self-limiting ideas in order to have a more accurate understanding of what actually happened. Talk to people who may have an alternative viewpoint.
3. Talk to yourself.
This may seem absurd, but it actually works. You can become smarter, have better memories, be more focused, do better in sports, and more by talking to yourself. According to the documentary The Human Brain, we speak to ourselves between 300 and 1,000 times every minute. The Navy SEALS and Special Forces rely on the effectiveness of positive self-talk to get through challenging situations.
For instance, by teaching recruits to have a strong mind and talk well of themselves, they can learn how to overcome worries brought on by the limbic brain system, a primitive area of the brain that aids in anxiety management.
How to make it work for you:
Positive self-talk is important since it affects your neurobiological reaction to it. You've changed your answer into a constructive one when you respond, "I know what to do here" or "I see things as a challenge rather than a problem."
4. Think positive to overcome your negativity bias.
Humans have known since the beginning of time to get lunch or be lunch. For thousands of years, our innate tendency to see the worst in people has protected us from harm. However, not everything that is novel or unique poses a risk to our survival. We are hardwired to focus on everything we've done wrong, so this negativity bias can erode our confidence.
FBI personnel are trained to seek for the best information. Positive knowledge is prone to falling away like Teflon, which makes it challenging at times. Negative information nonetheless sticks to you like Velcro.
How to make it work for you:
- Come up with five positive thoughts to counter every one negative thought.
- Let every positive thought sit for 20 seconds before moving to the next positive thought.
- Acknowledge both good and bad emotions.
- Do not try to suppress negative ones.
- Label the emotions for what they truly are and move on. Do not enter into inner dialogue about the negative emotion because then it becomes more powerful.
5. Raise your curiosity levels.
For FBI agents conducting investigations and for everyone who wants to be self-assured and successful, curiosity is a crucial quality.
The basis of lifelong learning is curiosity. If we continue to be inquisitive, we continue to be teachable, and our minds and hearts expand daily. By constantly looking forward, learning new things, and experiencing new things, we can keep our beginner's mind.
How to make it work for you:
- It makes your mind active instead of passive.
- It encourages you to be more observant of new ideas.
- It opens up new worlds and possibilities.
- It creates an adventurous response that leads you in a new direction.
6. Overcome self-doubt.
You'll always feel that you're at the mercy of others if you lack self-confidence. When you adopt a victim mindset, you lose your ability to bounce back from life's unavoidable setbacks.
Agents of the FBI don't go where they feel most comfortable—they go where they are required. I was given investigations to complete that I had no idea how to do. However, I had the following in mind: Put me in the middle of any squad or circumstance, wherever it may be, at any time. I won't be afraid because I am sure that no matter where I am, I will succeed.
How to make it work for you:
You are the only one holding yourself back from attaining your goals. It's time to pinpoint the places where you have self-doubt and get rid of those obstacles.
7. Face your fears.
We are not terrified when we have a sense of control. When we are at ease with something, it is not frightening. When we don't feel in control, our emotional brain takes over and prevents us from thinking rationally. Fear frequently appears arbitrary and irrational because our emotions are in charge, which is why.
FBI agents are instructed to get closer to the threat in order to increase safety. Avoiding, denying, or ignoring the worry is not helpful.
How to make it work for you:
In his book The Mindfulness Solution, Harvard Medical School professor Ronald Siegel suggests the following:
Consider your worst phobia. Give it some time. Then, as you draw closer to it, increase your terror. Consider the worst-case scenario. Concentrate now on your breathing. Relax and feel your body. See, you didn't actually pass away. You're getting closer to overcoming your phobia.
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